The Three Pillars of Consent (Part 1)

William Pellerin - Licensed Sexologist

The Three Pillars of Consent (Part 1)

While each of the topics I described in my last article are often overlooked in Sex Education, none of them has a greater impact on their future love life than consent.

Unfortunately, there is a profound lack of formal education around the topic. And this leaves most people fumbling around and possibly deeply hurting the ones they love as they start navigating romantic and sexual relationships.

The worst part is that it’s not unusual for them to repeat those mistakes over and over without even knowing that their behaviors are bad or hurtful.

And that’s why it’s so important to educate ourselves around the topic of consent:

  • It increase the odds that our partners (and ourselves) will have good experiences;
  • It also makes it much more likely that our children won’t have to make the same mistakes.

To be fair, consent is not a simple concept to explain – It is a lot more complicated than “yes means yes” and “no means no”.

But having a better idea of what consists good consent (even if it’s not perfect) can make a world of difference in your life, whether you are single, dating, or in a relationship.

And it can save your kids a whole lot of pain.

So for the next few articles, I’ll go over The Three Pillars of Consent – the three key components you need in order for a situation to be truly consensual.

This model won’t be perfect. No model is.

But it’ll provide a lot of material to think about consent in a new way, and to significantly reduce the risks of hurting partners (or ourselves) emotionally, psychologically, or sexually.